Yes, you heard me right: whether I’ve been working with my client for years….or even if we are just at the very beginning of our coaching relationship and I don’t know my client that well yet…first and foremost, I am always going to love & honor my client.
The Skill of Creating Awareness is one of the most foundational – and also one of the most powerful – that you can use with clients.
Creating Awareness is literally the act of:
— supporting your client to see something about themselves and their situation that they were not previously able to see;
— supporting your client in being able to acknowledge and accept something about themselves and their situation that they were not previously able to acknowledge and accept;
— supporting your client in being able to more deeply embrace something about themselves or their situation that will help them become more confident, more clear, more able or more open.
Alright, here we go. This is probably the least serious article I’ll ever write, but hopefully it will have more substance for you than you might think. Here are some out-of-the-box, slightly whimsical, quick and fun yet very powerful questions to set yourself up for an AMAZING 2019!
Of course, learning new skills and techniques to use with clients is important and really helps you go deeper and stronger with them. You absolutely need that. But another thing that’s really helpful is simply asking YOURSELF questions that will take you deeper into your own inner wisdom, your own self-awareness, and your own understanding of your client’s situation.
Here are 3 questions I recommend journaling on after EVERY client session you have over the next week or two. You will learn LOADS from this and upgrade your work through it. Eventually, you’ll automatically start asking yourself these questions while you’re actually in session, and be able to fine tune and strengthen your sessions right then and there.
Just like every industry, the coaching and transformation industries go through different cycles and stages of evolution that are critical.
Right now, we are going through MASSIVE developments that are changing EVERYTHING about the industry. The more you know and understand what these developments are, the better equipped you’ll be to grow a business with staying power.
Things are feeling a little chaotic over here. I’m preparing to lead a 4-day retreat next week (it’s Retreat #1 for the folks in my Into the Depths Ritual and Facilitation Mastery training).
I’m also gearing up for some AMAZINGNESS coming your way about how to go deeper with your coaching skills (more on that coming very soon).
And…I’m going to see “Hamilton” tonight!!! I am soooo very excited.
During times like this, when things get really busy, my morning and evening rituals become even more important to help keep me sane and grounded. (Is that the same for you?)
This week’s blog post is a FB live that I did today. It’s about a really simple yet super important principle that will help you take your work with clients to the next level. Click here to view it.
I hope you enjoy what I share and would love to hear your thoughts!
Let’s talk about the difference between coaching & consulting, and how this distinction radically affects your client results and your business.
I’ve seen a trend happening over the last 6 or so years: coaches, teachers and healers are doing less & less coaching, teaching and healing…and more and more consulting.
In other words, practitioners have been shying away from the coaching principles of:
Just like everyone else, I’ve had some doozy client situations. What has really helped me become better and better and better as a practitioner is being willing to look closely and assess carefully client cases that aren’t working so well…even if it’s uncomfortable – almost painful! – to do so! (This is why in my coach trainings, we always have Client Case Clinics to look at the stuff that comes up).
I thought it would be valuable for you if I shared my Worst Client Case Study, and what I learned from it. Here we go!:
In my nineteen years of coaching, teaching, and facilitating…in my 10 years of parenting and working to raise daughters who are secure, confident and at peace…and in my many decades of being a human being communicating with family, friends, colleagues, and strangers…I have learned quite a bit about what it takes to hold space for deep growth, transformation, evolution and aligned action taking.
There is, of course, a lot that goes into this: mastery of questioning skills and listening skills and acknowledging skills and strategizing skills and reflection skills; mastery of working with resistance and working with fear and working with self-sabotage and working with Shadow. READ MORE
My first business coach, who in so many ways was truly a wonderful coach and mentor, taught me a lot about boundaries. She was the first person to really open my eyes to the dangers of over-giving and allowing yourself to be treated (or treating yourself) like a doormat.
I will be forever grateful for all she taught me in this area. I really learned how to respect my time and respect my boundaries because of it.
And this is a big “but”.