Help Your Clients Get off the Wheel of Sabotage

One of the worst feelings in the world is seeing that a client is engaging in self-sabotage, yet not knowing, as the coach, how to guide her out of this behavior.

When a client is engaging in self-sabotage behavior, it can look like:

  • Client has stopped taking actions toward her goals
  • Client is taking actions that are actually moving her backwards instead of forward
  • Client is in a place of fear, shame and self-judgment
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    A love letter to the ones who go deep

    Don’t call me a coach. Or do…

    In truth I feel conflicted, because it seems than anyone can call themselves a coach these days…. And while I honor every person’s journey, I worry about the dilution and impact…

    On the work I hold so dear.

    What I know to be true, is that my work is my calling. I’m here to see the unseen, hear the unsaid, and examine the hidden truths and bring them into the light.
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    A game-changing skill that creates transformation for your clients

    I’m very excited to share this week’s article with you.

    But before we get there: I am THRILLED about the response we’ve had to the Overcome the Fear Barrier Skills Guide.

    As I’ve watched this community grow & grow over the years, it makes me proud to know that I am standing side by side with so many leaders that care so deeply about QUALITY DELIVERY, that care so deeply about the results you co-create with your clients, that care so deeply about making READ MORE

    Quickie Coaching Tip for Helping Clients with Self-Sabotage

    Here is a Universal Truth that is important to know:

    When you (or your clients) start stepping into a new goal, a new vision, a new belief or a new way of being, your ego will always, in one way or another, pretty immediately ask – “But HOW? HOW will I reach that goal? HOW will I let go of that pattern? HOW will I make it all happen?”

    This is just your ego’s way of distracting you (read: sabotaging you), by demanding that you know HOW. READ MORE

    The most important thing you can do to grow your business

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    There is a deep, dark secret that massively impacts pretty much everyone in the coaching, self-development and teaching industries:

    It’s the fear that you’re not delivering true transformational results for your clients.

    It’s the knowing that you could be co-creating much better outcomes with your clients.

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    6 tools to create deeper transformation for your clients

    transformationIn my 15 years of facilitating Transformational Experiences for thousands of individuals and groups, I’ve come to learn that there are certain skills and elements you need to master as a leader and facilitator in order to be successful at creating lasting shifts, healing and real openings for your participants.

    In fact, what I’ve come to see is that without these tools, things can go very, very wrong – your workshops can fall flat or not go deep enough, or someone in the group will dominate and upset everyone else, or you will misuse your energy and feel exhausted and spent.

    Here is a snapshot of some of the most valuable tools I’ve developed over hundreds and hundreds of rituals and workshops:

    1. Create and Hold a Tight and Safe Container:

      This is the most important tool to facilitating any kind of ritual of transformational experience for an individual or group. If your container is leaky, you will find that participants get bored or don’t go as deep as they could, or get upset at you or others in the group.

      From the very beginning – literally from the moment you walk in the room – you must make sure you are creating a very tight container, an environment that feels safe enough for your participants to open up, be vulnerable, share with you and the group, and transform.

      And you must make sure you hold that container throughout the work so that it remains tight and doesn’t fall apart.

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    25 Rituals from my heart to yours

    25_rituals_fb_fire_blog_postImagine how different your life would be if you didn’t have to use willpower or push to make things happen.

    What if instead of having to force things, they gracefully happened for you – in a very feminine and almost magical way.

    That’s the power of ritual.

    With ritual, you put magic into motion. Things happen more easily.
    With ritual, life and business become more profound and aligned.

    That’s why I’ve invited 27 other experts that I admire deeply to bring you 25 Rituals for Sacred Living and Business.

    (Almost all my best ideas come through in the shower, and this one was no exception. The confirmation is that the content my colleagues submitted for this book ABSOLUTELY blew me away. The rituals brought me to tears. I am so excited to share this with you!)

    >> Download Your 25 Rituals Here << 
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    What’s the Sister Wound, and how does it show up in your biz?

    uncoolIn grade school, there was a group of girls I called the "Clique" – they always seemed to be laughing, in the "know", have the best clothes, and generally gave off the feeling that not only were they cooler than everyone else, but that their circle was utterly impenetrable.

    No outsiders allowed. And all outsiders were definitely not good enough.

    Being the sensitive kid that I was, this affected me deeply. I didn’t actually know if I liked the girls in the Clique (because I didn’t really know them), but at the same time I really wanted to be part of it.

    I longed to belong, to be seen, liked and appreciated by girls that were seemingly "better" than me. And not being part of it felt like a massive rejection and judgment on my "enough-ness".
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