The Integrity + Depth Principles, Part 1

I often get asked how I’ve been able to grow and sustain such a thriving business, with so many hardcore fans, happy clients, and referrals. The answer?

Well, it’s not just one thing (if only!). It’s been a number of things, but one of the biggest is that I approach all of my client work with what I call The Integrity and Depth Principles.

Integrity and Depth are at the core of creating an environment that motivates your clients to trust you deeply, be vulnerable, explore the parts of themselves they otherwise would ignore or reject, see their Truth with clarity, and be willing to take bold, aligned actions. READ MORE

The Case for 1:1 Work & Skills (Slightly Controversial)

I’ve been noticing more and more in the transformational and coaching industries that practitioners are being encouraged to move away from offering 1:1 work because group programs are more lucrative.

I absolutely understand this. It is true that group programs often yield more income for your time. There is also a certain satisfaction that only group work can provide…and I of course run many group programs myself each year (& even run group programs about running group programs!).

But all that being said, I want to make the case for continuing (or beginning) to include 1:1 work in your offerings, or at the very least, staying at the top of your game when it comes to 1:1 work. READ MORE

When Someone Steals Your Work

A few months ago I was scrolling through Facebook, I noticed a post from someone who has taken ALL of my training programs over the last years. Turns out she had just put together her OWN transformational practitioner training, and she was posting pics and videos from her retreat.

As I was watching one of her videos, I saw that she was straight up using content as her own that had taken me decades to develop, and even using all my sets of journaling questions – WORD FOR WORD.

As you can imagine, this was upsetting to me. For one thing, it simply made my stomach turn to see that my curriculum that was so special to me, so nurtured by me over so many years, was being used by someone else who was masquerading it as their own.

And yet, even though I was so so angry and so so upset at her….

….and even though it should have immediately been so clear that she was in the wrong….

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One of My Deepest Struggles… And Its Gifts

I’ve got this dichotomy inside of me:

On the one hand, I know deep in my heart, body, soul, and mind, that my work is really good. That the work is super-valuable and transformational. I know I’ve earned my place as one of the best coaches in the industry. And I know that no one comes close to me when it comes to teaching master level coaching and facilitation skills to individuals who like to dive deep and who desire to get into the depths with their clients.

On the other hand…I sometimes wonder if I suck. If the work just isn’t good enough. If I’m a fraud.

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One of the Most Core Foundational Coaching Principles, Period

In my nineteen years of coaching, teaching, and facilitating…in my 10 years of parenting and working to raise daughters who are secure, confident and at peace…and in my many decades of being a human being communicating with family, friends, colleagues, and strangers…I have learned quite a bit about what it takes to hold space for deep growth, transformation, evolution and aligned action taking.

There is, of course, a lot that goes into this: mastery of questioning skills and listening skills and acknowledging skills and strategizing skills and reflection skills; mastery of working with resistance and working with fear and working with self-sabotage and working with Shadow. READ MORE