6 tools to create deeper transformation for your clients

transformationIn my 15 years of facilitating Transformational Experiences for thousands of individuals and groups, I’ve come to learn that there are certain skills and elements you need to master as a leader and facilitator in order to be successful at creating lasting shifts, healing and real openings for your participants.

In fact, what I’ve come to see is that without these tools, things can go very, very wrong – your workshops can fall flat or not go deep enough, or someone in the group will dominate and upset everyone else, or you will misuse your energy and feel exhausted and spent.

Here is a snapshot of some of the most valuable tools I’ve developed over hundreds and hundreds of rituals and workshops:

  1. Create and Hold a Tight and Safe Container:

    This is the most important tool to facilitating any kind of ritual of transformational experience for an individual or group. If your container is leaky, you will find that participants get bored or don’t go as deep as they could, or get upset at you or others in the group.

    From the very beginning – literally from the moment you walk in the room – you must make sure you are creating a very tight container, an environment that feels safe enough for your participants to open up, be vulnerable, share with you and the group, and transform.

    And you must make sure you hold that container throughout the work so that it remains tight and doesn’t fall apart.

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25 Rituals from my heart to yours

25_rituals_fb_fire_blog_postImagine how different your life would be if you didn’t have to use willpower or push to make things happen.

What if instead of having to force things, they gracefully happened for you – in a very feminine and almost magical way.

That’s the power of ritual.

With ritual, you put magic into motion. Things happen more easily.
With ritual, life and business become more profound and aligned.

That’s why I’ve invited 27 other experts that I admire deeply to bring you 25 Rituals for Sacred Living and Business.

(Almost all my best ideas come through in the shower, and this one was no exception. The confirmation is that the content my colleagues submitted for this book ABSOLUTELY blew me away. The rituals brought me to tears. I am so excited to share this with you!)

>> Download Your 25 Rituals Here << 
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What’s the Sister Wound, and how does it show up in your biz?

uncoolIn grade school, there was a group of girls I called the "Clique" – they always seemed to be laughing, in the "know", have the best clothes, and generally gave off the feeling that not only were they cooler than everyone else, but that their circle was utterly impenetrable.

No outsiders allowed. And all outsiders were definitely not good enough.

Being the sensitive kid that I was, this affected me deeply. I didn’t actually know if I liked the girls in the Clique (because I didn’t really know them), but at the same time I really wanted to be part of it.

I longed to belong, to be seen, liked and appreciated by girls that were seemingly "better" than me. And not being part of it felt like a massive rejection and judgment on my "enough-ness".
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How I struggled when I first started my business

Joanna There was a time, not too, too long ago, when I wasn’t moving forward at ALL in my business. I remember waking up the first “official” day of my business 11 years ago, and didn’t know what to do with myself or where to start.

I had taken the risk. I had taken the leap. I had left the job with full-time benefits and health insurance to pursue my dream.

And yet I couldn’t move.

I didn’t know what to do, and I was too scared to even begin to figure it out. A ton of fears came rushing in: I wasn’t going to make any money. I wasn’t going to be successful. I was going to be inauthentic if I had to market. I was going to be a total flop.

With all of those fears running the show, I basically made myself really busy just to ease my state of fear and panic and give myself the illusion that I was moving forward. I told myself that if I was “busy”, then it meant I wasn’t lazy and I wasn’t falling behind.

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A Sacred Gift Just for You

When I started my business 10 years ago, I didn’t know how to be a “real” and successful entrepreneur while being a woman connected deeply to my soul.

You might relate to my experience:

not really marketing in effective & authentic ways
feeling like a fraud, so you undercharge and over-give
—frustration that prospects don’t fully understand the sacredness of your work
—fear that you are never going to fit in as a “real” entrepreneur

That’s why it’s so vital to learn how to own your value and your worth and how to market yourself in a way that is organic and in full integrity.

All while staying true to who you are as a soulful woman.

This is what I want for you.
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What Are You Addicted To?

When I was one year into being an entrepreneur, I found myself working 70-hour weeks. It was grueling and kind of crazy, but I told myself that I needed to work hard in order to get my business off the ground.

Three years after that, when my business was solid and established, I was still working 70-hour weeks, if not 80 or sometimes 90! It ate away at my personal time, my self-care time, my spiritual time, and my social time. But I told myself that I needed to work hard in order to maintain my business and keep it going.

I believed this with all my heart and soul.

I believed it so much that nothing could stop me from working from early morning until late at night. I worked through social engagements. I worked through evenings when I could have been spending time with my husband. I worked through the times I promised myself I’d go to yoga class.

I was addicted to over-working.

It sounds dramatic, but it was 100% true: It was an addiction. I couldn’t stop working, no matter how much I wanted to.

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