Quickie Coaching Tool

I had a private session earlier today with a client who also works with a healer.

She was telling me that she was feeling so much pressure because the Healer had intuited something for her to do – to go to the beach for a week – but she just couldn’t figure out how to make that fit with her life.

Every few days the Healer would check in to encourage her to make those beach plans and keep her accountable.

The confusion and the pressure were really causing frustration and fear.

My client shared all of this with me, and I asked her: “What is your inner wisdom telling you about going to the beach for week?”

She paused for a moment and then she said, “My inner wisdom is saying that it makes no sense to go to the beach for a week. I can go for a day here or there over next few weeks.”

So, I asked: “Does that feel like your Truth?”

And she answered Yes.

Next, I shared the following with my client: No matter how amazing and intuitive any coach or healer or anyone is….YOU are ultimately your best and true-est Authority. You know better than anyone, any professional, if something is aligned or misaligned for you. Trust yourself.

Then, I also shared: There is always more than one pathway or action to create the results you want. Going to the beach for a week may be ONE way to create what you want….but there are other ways. Don’t let anyone ever tell you there is just one way.

This is one of those things in the coaching and transformation industry that I feel SO passionate about, and that’s why I’m sharing here: We are all wise; I am positive of it. But we NEVER, EVER know better than our clients. Our job isn’t to tell them what to do. Our job is to hold space, create awareness, support clients to be seen and heard, connect them to their own wisdom, hold them accountable to their desires, work with their fear and resistance….and even OFFER suggestions. But never dictate actions. Ever. Period.

Would love to hear your thoughts!

A Coaching Skill That Will Increase Client Satisfaction

I’m so excited to share this week’s article with you…which actually isn’t an article at all – it’s a short video with some super-important coaching pointers for both beginner and advanced practitioners.

(Please excuse my workout clothes in the video – I get very nervous to do videos. The inspiration struck me right after a workout and I decided to just go with it before I chickened out!).

And if you’d like to watch more videos like this, join me in my Master Coaching and Facilitation FB Group – there are lots of goodies I share exclusively over there!

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One of the Most Core, Foundational Coaching Principles, Period

In my eighteen years of coaching, teaching, and facilitating…in my 9 years of parenting and working to raise daughters who are secure, confident and at peace…and in my many decades of being a human being communicating with family, friends, colleagues, and strangers…I have learned quite a bit about what it takes to hold space for deep growth, transformation, evolution and aligned action taking.

There is, of course, a lot that goes into this: mastery of questioning skills and listening skills and acknowledging skills and strategizing skills and reflection skills; mastery of working with resistance and working with fear and working with self-sabotage and working with Shadow. READ MORE

What are your clients addicted to?

When I was one year into being an entrepreneur, I found myself working 70-hour weeks. It was grueling and kind of crazy, but I told myself that I needed to work hard in order to get my business off the ground.

Three years after that, when my business was solid and established, I was still working 70-hour weeks, if not 80 or sometimes 90! It ate away at my personal time, my self-care time, my spiritual time, and my social time. But I told myself that I needed to work hard in order to maintain my business and keep it going.

I believed this with all my heart and soul.

I believed it so much that nothing could stop me from working from early morning until late at night. I worked through social engagements. I worked through evenings when I could have been spending time with my husband. I worked through the times I promised myself I’d go to yoga class.

It didn’t matter how many new plans I made to work less, how much time management I tried to apply. Nothing worked. Because…

I was addicted to over-working. READ MORE

6 steps to start working with fear (for you & your clients!)

If you are a soul-centered human being and you’re in business, chances are pretty great that you come up against fears sometimes (or more than sometimes!). If you don’t know how to respond to those fears, they can become massive obstacles in the way of achieving your goals.

Some of the most common business-related fears are:

–Fear of being rejected

–Fear of seeming too “sales-y”
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How to help clients move past self-doubt and judgment

One of the biggest reasons why I developed that Sacred Depths Coach Training Program is because I see way too many amazing coaches out there not knowing what to do when their clients stop moving forward because of self-doubt and self-judgment.

You may know how it goes:

A client is steadily moving toward her goals, or has committed to starting toward her goals, and…
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Help Your Clients Get off the Wheel of Sabotage

One of the worst feelings in the world is seeing that a client is engaging in self-sabotage, yet not knowing, as the coach, how to guide her out of this behavior.

When a client is engaging in self-sabotage behavior, it can look like:

  • Client has stopped taking actions toward her goals
  • Client is taking actions that are actually moving her backwards instead of forward
  • Client is in a place of fear, shame and self-judgment
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    A love letter to the ones who go deep

    Don’t call me a coach. Or do…

    In truth I feel conflicted, because it seems than anyone can call themselves a coach these days…. And while I honor every person’s journey, I worry about the dilution and impact…

    On the work I hold so dear.

    What I know to be true, is that my work is my calling. I’m here to see the unseen, hear the unsaid, and examine the hidden truths and bring them into the light.
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