A Coaching Distinction to Help Create More Change for Clients

Things are feeling a little chaotic over here. I’m preparing to lead a 4-day retreat next week (it’s Retreat #1 for the folks in my Into the Depths Ritual and Facilitation Mastery training).

I’m also gearing up for some AMAZINGNESS coming your way about how to go deeper with your coaching skills (more on that coming very soon).

And…I’m going to see “Hamilton” tonight!!! I am soooo very excited.

During times like this, when things get really busy, my morning and evening rituals become even more important to help keep me sane and grounded. (Is that the same for you?)

This week’s blog post is a FB live that I did today. It’s about a really simple yet super important principle that will help you take your work with clients to the next level. Click here to view it.

I hope you enjoy what I share and would love to hear your thoughts!

With love,

One of the Most Core Foundational Coaching Principles, Period

In my nineteen years of coaching, teaching, and facilitating…in my 10 years of parenting and working to raise daughters who are secure, confident and at peace…and in my many decades of being a human being communicating with family, friends, colleagues, and strangers…I have learned quite a bit about what it takes to hold space for deep growth, transformation, evolution and aligned action taking.

There is, of course, a lot that goes into this: mastery of questioning skills and listening skills and acknowledging skills and strategizing skills and reflection skills; mastery of working with resistance and working with fear and working with self-sabotage and working with Shadow. READ MORE

Help Your Clients Get off the Wheel of Sabotage

One of the worst feelings in the world is seeing that a client is engaging in self-sabotage, yet not knowing, as the coach, how to guide her out of this behavior.

When a client is engaging in self-sabotage behavior, it can look like:

  • Client has stopped taking actions toward her goals
  • Client is taking actions that are actually moving her backwards instead of forward
  • Client is in a place of fear, shame and self-judgment

    Quickie Coaching Tool

    I had a private session earlier today with a client who also works with a healer.

    She was telling me that she was feeling so much pressure because the Healer had intuited something for her to do – to go to the beach for a week – but she just couldn’t figure out how to make that fit with her life.

    Every few days the Healer would check in to encourage her to make those beach plans and keep her accountable.

    The confusion and the pressure were really causing frustration and fear.

    My client shared all of this with me, and I asked her: “What is your inner wisdom telling you about going to the beach for week?”

    She paused for a moment and then she said, “My inner wisdom is saying that it makes no sense to go to the beach for a week. I can go for a day here or there over next few weeks.”

    So, I asked: “Does that feel like your Truth?”

    And she answered Yes.

    Next, I shared the following with my client: No matter how amazing and intuitive any coach or healer or anyone is….YOU are ultimately your best and true-est Authority. You know better than anyone, any professional, if something is aligned or misaligned for you. Trust yourself.

    Then, I also shared: There is always more than one pathway or action to create the results you want. Going to the beach for a week may be ONE way to create what you want….but there are other ways. Don’t let anyone ever tell you there is just one way.

    This is one of those things in the coaching and transformation industry that I feel SO passionate about, and that’s why I’m sharing here: We are all wise; I am positive of it. But we NEVER, EVER know better than our clients. Our job isn’t to tell them what to do. Our job is to hold space, create awareness, support clients to be seen and heard, connect them to their own wisdom, hold them accountable to their desires, work with their fear and resistance….and even OFFER suggestions. But never dictate actions. Ever. Period.

    Would love to hear your thoughts!