How to help clients move past self-doubt and judgment

One of the biggest reasons why I developed that Sacred Depths Coach Training Program is because I see way too many amazing coaches out there not knowing what to do when their clients stop moving forward because of self-doubt and self-judgment.

You may know how it goes:

A client is steadily moving toward her goals, or has committed to starting toward her goals, and…
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My biggest f*up (and lesson) of 2016

One of my biggest lessons in 2016 was almost one of the most painful.

It started out last Summer when I began the search for new members of my coaching team.

I had a very extensive screening process that lasted a number of months:

First round: fill out a lengthy and detailed application
Second round: create a 3-minute video about yourself and your strengths
Third round: interview with me READ MORE

10 Things I’m doing right now

10thingsFor many people – myself included – it’s been a trying few weeks since the U.S. elections.

To be fair, it’s been a trying year.
I’m honestly kind of really over 2016.

Amidst all of this, I’ve been incredibly reflective – processing, listening to my emotions, understanding my fears…. READ MORE

(vulnerability alert) Facing a hard truth about myself

It’s been nearly 3 months since I sent you my last newsletter…which is record-breaking because for many, many years I’ve faithfully shared an article and content every single week.

I’m a big believer in being persistent and consistent, and teach this to my clients all the time. For example – if you’re going to have a newsletter, the way to make it most effective is to send it out regularly. It’s a rule I have lived by.

So why have you not really heard from me since July?

Well, two monumental things happened simultaneously.

The first is that mid-Summer I became TIRED. I’m not talking a little tired; I’m talking the kind of tired that has you want to stop everything, stay in your PJs for a month, and watch bad TV.
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my most traumatic incident of 2015 (BIG biz lesson) 

5-27-16VoiceImageI’ve waited nearly a year to share this
important story with you.

It’s one I want you to hear because it will
impact how you approach your clients, your prospects, your team
members, your
joint venture partners,
your vendors….not to mention
everyone else in
your life.

This story starts in March 2014, a month before Yael, my younger
daughter, was
born. READ MORE

Are you a Victimized Vicki?

A couple of weeks ago I had a personal training session at the gym scheduled for 10am.

I was really looking forward to getting there early, doing some cardio and then my strength training.

Jon left for Whole Foods with the kids, and I got my workout clothing on. When I couldn’t find my car keys, I realized…they were in the diaper bag with Jon!!! This meant not being able to get to the gym, not working out, but still having to pay for my session.

My first impulse was to get angry and blame Jon — “How could he have taken the diaper bag without looking inside first!”

My second impulse was to go straight into the familiar cloak of victimhood: “Everything goes wrong for me…I never get the time I need for myself…”

Over the last decade, I’ve become very aware of my tendency to allow myself to go down the rabbit hole of dejection and defeat when something doesn’t go my way or when I get scared. Victimhood is the pattern of feeling like you can’t win, like a force (or that God) is against you, like no matter how hard you try or what actions you take, you’ll always get burned.

The Victim can’t see facts for facts, can’t really and truly be positive, and doesn’t know how to take responsibility for him or herself. The Victim also isn’t interested in solutions. She’s more interested in rolling around in her misery and hopelessness. When your Victim is out to play, she rejects any solutions or problem-solving ideas.

If you’ve got an active “Victim” lurking inside of you, she is probably running the show of your life a lot of the time.

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What Are You Addicted To?

When I was one year into being an entrepreneur, I found myself working 70-hour weeks. It was grueling and kind of crazy, but I told myself that I needed to work hard in order to get my business off the ground.

Three years after that, when my business was solid and established, I was still working 70-hour weeks, if not 80 or sometimes 90! It ate away at my personal time, my self-care time, my spiritual time, and my social time. But I told myself that I needed to work hard in order to maintain my business and keep it going.

I believed this with all my heart and soul.

I believed it so much that nothing could stop me from working from early morning until late at night. I worked through social engagements. I worked through evenings when I could have been spending time with my husband. I worked through the times I promised myself I’d go to yoga class.

I was addicted to over-working.

It sounds dramatic, but it was 100% true: It was an addiction. I couldn’t stop working, no matter how much I wanted to.

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