To be clear…

Last week I posted an article “Being a True Transformational Leader means doing your own Anti-Racism work” you can read it HERE.

I want to share the message again, and take it a step further in the hopes that it will be helpful:

If you are white, and want to be in-integrity calling yourself a transformational leader, coach, teacher or guide, it is important to:

1. Look at the biases & racist ideas that live deep inside of you. 

Even if you believe all people are & should be equal, you have been brought up within our culture’s systemic racism, and therefore you carry some unconscious racist ideas inside of you. 

Yes, this is painful & possibly shameful to acknowledge. 

The first time I really acknowledged the systemic racism inside of me was in 2016, and because I think of myself as “a good person”, it was absolutely excruciatingly painful. 

But it must be done. 

If you avoid your shame & don’t look at your biases head-on, you will continue to sleepwalk without seeing them….and inadvertently cause harm to black people and people of color.

2. Continue to acknowledge the impact of your privilege & root out the internalized racism inside of you. It’s not a once and done.

Looking at your deeper biases and how you take your privileges is not something that can be done only once. If done only once, the learning and the corrections don’t stick. True learning and transformation happen when you commit consistently and persistently. The moment you think you’re done is the moment you become complacent. I know that my own anti-racism journey will never be done.

As Andrea Ranae (@andrearanaej) says: “Anti-racism is not an identity or a checklist; it’s a practice.” READ MORE

One of the Secrets to….Everything

For millennia, the wise women have understood and known how to navigate this particular key to life, and we need this key now more than ever before: Master the Paradox.

What is Mastering the Paradox?

It’s the knowing and living into the fact that opposites exist at the same time and sometimes inevitably need to be experienced at the same time.

It’s the understanding that life is not just one thing….that real life is a layered and complex, disorganized mishmash of things that at first seem to not go together. READ MORE

Behind the scenes at my Shadow & Archetype Facilitator’s Retreat

It was recently pointed out to me that I don’t often share with you, my beloved community, the profound magic & learning that happens at my training retreats, so here we go!

Two weeks ago I led a special training retreat for Advanced Facilitators to learn how to leverage Shadow and Archetype for greater healing and transformation in their retreats and workshops.

This particular training is one of my favorites and the growth in the room is always astronomical.

One of the reasons I teach this particular training is because I believe it is SO important for coaches, teachers, healers, and workshop leaders to have a firm understanding that in order for their clients to feel fully whole and complete, and in order for their clients to have access to all of their power….they MUST be willing to look at, embrace, and ultimately love ALL parts of themselves.

Not just the pretty parts. Not just the shiny parts. Not just the “acceptable” parts. ALL parts.

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My biggest f*up (and lesson) of 2016

One of my biggest lessons in 2016 was almost one of the most painful.

It started out last Summer when I began the search for new members of my coaching team.

I had a very extensive screening process that lasted a number of months:

First round: fill out a lengthy and detailed application
Second round: create a 3-minute video about yourself and your strengths
Third round: interview with me READ MORE

10 Things I’m doing right now

10thingsFor many people – myself included – it’s been a trying few weeks since the U.S. elections.

To be fair, it’s been a trying year.
I’m honestly kind of really over 2016.

Amidst all of this, I’ve been incredibly reflective – processing, listening to my emotions, understanding my fears…. READ MORE

(vulnerability alert) Facing a hard truth about myself

It’s been nearly 3 months since I sent you my last newsletter…which is record-breaking because for many, many years I’ve faithfully shared an article and content every single week.

I’m a big believer in being persistent and consistent, and teach this to my clients all the time. For example – if you’re going to have a newsletter, the way to make it most effective is to send it out regularly. It’s a rule I have lived by.

So why have you not really heard from me since July?

Well, two monumental things happened simultaneously.

The first is that mid-Summer I became TIRED. I’m not talking a little tired; I’m talking the kind of tired that has you want to stop everything, stay in your PJs for a month, and watch bad TV.
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It’s your birth-rite to feel sacred

butterflyIt is time to reclaim the most sacred and alive parts of yourself, to unleash your inner wild woman, to uncover the ancient wisdom stored deep inside of you, and to harness all of this to midwife massive transformation & healing for your clients.

It is your birth-rite to walk this Earth embodied and empowered.
It is your birth-rite to fully align with the magic of the Earth, the moon and all her cycles.

It is time to claim your sacred role as Priestess and create groundbreaking results with your clients.
And it is time to come home to yourself.

18 years ago, I was disconnected from my deepest self, I felt empty about most things, and I wasn’t able to unleash my full potential when it came to supporting others in transformation. READ MORE