business development

Everything the Transformational Industry Has Taught You About Competition is a Lie

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If you’ve been listening to the Coaching, Transformational, or Spiritual Communities or Industries, you’ve heard the advice, the warnings, and the explicatives about how to approach Competition.

They say: No matter what, and under any circumstance: Don’t be competitive!

And, you’ll hear or read things like:

“When you’re competitive, you’re in your lowest level energies”

“You should only collaborate, not compete”

“Competition is for people coming from a scarcity mindset”

“Good”, empowered, and especially spiritual people (particularly women!) are taught that in order to be in their best selves, they cannot and should not exhibit any type of competitive thoughts, feelings or behaviors.

Well….I’d respectfully like to call B.S. on all that and bust the myth that Competition is “bad”.

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Uncovering Client Blocks & Toe-Dipping Into Inner Child Work

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I had the honor and privilege of coaching a volunteer named Joni. She brought a real doozy of an issue to our time together, and I demonstrated how to very quickly and very effectively:

  • Laser right in to uncover underlying blocks and obstacles
  • Connect the dots and create crystal clear awareness on life-long patterns
  • Do preliminary yet powerful Inner Child work to support clients to make better choices
  • Ask masterful breakthrough questions that open up new possibilities for clients
  • Create a safe and loving, yet bold and activating coaching container.

So, in lieu of an article this week, I’m including something even more rich with teachings and golden nuggets: the recorded demonstration of me coaching Joni for 25 minutes and then, along with community on the call, breaking down the Coaching Skills that I used.

You can access the recording here.

You’ll learn a LOT, and be so glad you did! (One participant said is was as PERFECT a coaching session as one could be!)

Coaching Demo with Joni

Once you listen, I’d love to hear your thoughts and takeaways and questions. Please head on over to the The Coaching r(E)volution and share a post!

Your Positive Thinking is Harming Your Clients

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I know, I know – Positive Thinking is a good thing. I admire and have learned a lot from those who naturally have a positive outlook on life. For better or worse, I did not grow up in an environment that modeled any kind of positive thinking. In fact, quite the opposite. I grew up with two immigrant parents whose own parents had survived the Holocaust. My parents trusted no one, always expected the worst, and because of their own trauma, they were perceiving a constant threat of annihilation. It was kind of like living in Catastrophic Thinking Central.

Needless to say, my proclivity towards the negative (& my neurotic quirks!) speak for themselves!

In my early 20s, I learned about the power of looking through more hopeful and happier lenses, and I’ve been dutifully working on my own positive thinking ever since. I find it powerful and very helpful.

BUT.

And this is a HUGE “But”…

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What To Do When a Client is Pissed Off Or Overly-Demanding

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If you are in the business of working with human beings, no matter how amazing you are, a moment will come when a client will get pissed off at you, judgmental of you, or overly-demanding.

It can at first feel really icky. You can feel like you’re not doing a good enough job, like you need to give more and more, and like other professionals are doing a much better job than you. You can also find that you don’t know what to do next with the client.

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This Coaching Standard Does More Harm Than Good

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Over the summer, I had a private session with a client who had been in session with her healer the week before.

My client was telling me that her Healer had intuited that she needed to go to the beach for a week. It sounded like a good idea to my client because she trusts this healer’s intuition, yet she told him she was feeling stressed out and pressured because she just couldn’t figure out how to make a week away that month fit with her life.

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Love

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Yes, you heard me right: whether I’ve been working with my client for years….or even if we are just at the very beginning of our coaching relationship and I don’t know my client that well yet…first and foremost, I am always going to love & honor my client.

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3 Questions to Ask Yourself That Will Upgrade Your Coaching & Client Work

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Of course, learning new skills and techniques to use with clients is important and really helps you go deeper and stronger with them. You absolutely need that. But another thing that’s really helpful is simply asking YOURSELF questions that will take you deeper into your own inner wisdom, your own self-awareness, and your own understanding of your client’s situation.

Here are 3 questions I recommend journaling on after EVERY client session you have over the next week or two. You will learn LOADS from this and upgrade your work through it. Eventually, you’ll automatically start asking yourself these questions while you’re actually in session, and be able to fine tune and strengthen your sessions right then and there.

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3 New Developments That Completely Change Your Practice

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Just like every industry, the coaching and transformation industries go through different cycles and stages of evolution that are critical.

Right now, we are going through MASSIVE developments that are changing EVERYTHING about the industry. The more you know and understand what these developments are, the better equipped you’ll be to grow a business with staying power.

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A Not-So-Secret Ingredient to my Coaching Secret Sauce

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My first business coach, who in so many ways was truly a wonderful coach and mentor, taught me a lot about boundaries. She was the first person to really open my eyes to the dangers of over-giving and allowing yourself to be treated (or treating yourself) like a doormat.

I will be forever grateful for all she taught me in this area. I really learned how to respect my time and respect my boundaries because of it.

But.

And this is a big “but”.

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I was scared to post this….

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In lieu of a full blog post, I wanted to share with you a recent post I wrote on Facebook.

I was scared to hit post on it because I know it’s a little controversial….
and I wasn’t sure if it would trigger some people…
but I ultimately decided to post it because I feel so strongly about it.

It’s about coaching & coaching skills & ethics & so much more.

You’ll see it got some attention and a lot of folks commented very passionately on it.

Here it is: https://www.facebook.com/joanna.lindenbaum/posts/10155812738623437

Would love to hear your thoughts!