Want to know THE most important component of Transformational Facilitation & Coaching?
It’s not about the facilitation skills you master – of course, those are SUPER important and necessary in order to create results and deep healing for your participants.
It’s not about the really powerful experiential exercises and processes you lead to connect your audiences to their souls, though, of course, those are also super important and vital.
And it’s not about your curriculum – though, of course, that is really significant, too.
The most important component to create the deepest, most healing and transformational events is about WHO you are BEING and BECOMING. It’s so simple, yet overlooked all of the time.
You can know the best facilitation skills in the world, you can have an encyclopedic knowledge of every ritual or experiential process in the book…but if you don’t know how to SHOW UP as a transformational facilitator….if you don’t know how to come to your retreats and circles and workshops and classes in your power, in your brilliance, and by channeling ALL of your various life-force energies (not just your pretty ones or your most reliable ones)….then none of the very valuable practical skills matter. Things will fall flat.
Who you are BEING as a transformational facilitator when you lead your groups is the secret sauce and magic glue that binds all of the actual facilitation skills together.
Who you are BEING can’t be “bought” or read or observed or faked. It must be earned.
There’s no other way.
And it must be earned by doing deep inner work:
By really looking at your fears. (I mean REALLY. Not just surface stuff.)
By being willing to take risks when you lead and facilitate.
By practicing speaking your truth over and over and over again.
By committing to your authenticity.
By letting go of old family dynamics and beliefs.
By coming face-to-face with your own Shadows and your own Archetypes.
By owning all the parts of yourself (even the ones you don’t like).
By being willing to be seen.
By forgiving what needs to be forgiven.
By saying “NO” in places that feel scary and impossible to set boundaries.
By opening up to the highest and most Truthful parts of who you are.
By reclaiming your naïve, open-hearted and Maiden self.
By nurturing the parts of you that didn’t get nurtured as a young person.
By reckoning your relationship to Time and Death (deep, I know, but so necessary because these are at the root of so much anxiety and desire).
By healing your Sister Wound and any places where you have nigglies with other women.
By finding your next level of Trust.
By being willing to tolerate the absolute radiance of your own brilliance and channel it into your work. (Yes, I say “tolerate your radiance” because most people actually have an adverse reaction to how amazing they are.)
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In my 15 years of facilitating Transformational Experiences for thousands of individuals and groups, I’ve come to learn that there are certain skills and elements you need to master as a leader and facilitator in order to be successful at creating lasting shifts, healing and real openings for your participants.
This very important article is almost like a glossary of 5 different Teaching Modes that are each vital components of a transformational retreat or workshop.
Folks who experience my retreats, workshops and talks often ask me how I am able to create and lead events where participants feel so present, so vulnerable, so connected to me and each other, and so deeply transformed.
