Last week, I led some of my top-level clients through a transformative 3-day journey here in Charlotte.
I am fully in my brilliance when I am leading groups in person, and in this particular retreat, I was really in the zone.
I knew that each woman present was experiencing something life changing, and it felt AMAZING to know that I was at the center of that.
Unfortunately, my incredible feelings of satisfaction, joy, and accomplishment were eclipsed by worry and anxiety.
Let me explain what was happening in my personal life as this retreat was happening:
Night 1: I came home happy and tired after a wonderful day and really wanted to take a hot bath and r-e-l-a-x.
I drew a bath and threw in some bath oils. I noticed that the oils smelled a little funny, but didn’t really pay attention. I got into the bath and noticed that the oil felt kinda funny on my body, but didn’t really pay attention. And then it hit me: the oil was seriously rancid.
It took me 2 hours and 5 different soaps to scrub it all off my body and get the smell off, too. My relaxing evening turned into total anxiety.
Night 2: I came home from another amazing retreat day…only to realize that the milk ducts in my right breast were completely clogged because I hadn’t been nursing enough.
In the 7 months that I’ve been nursing Yael, this is the FIRST time that it’s happened. A clogged milk duct is really serious, because it could lead to infection and also reduced milk for the baby.
I spent the entire evening with heating pads, trying to massage the clog out. Big stress and worry.
Night 3: As soon as I finished hugging all of the women from the retreat good-bye, feeling incredibly satisfied that each one had multiple huge breakthroughs, I found out that we had a methane leak at home and had to sleep somewhere else for a few days.
Instead of keeping calm and collected, especially since it’s no big deal because my very gracious in-laws took us in, I freaked out. As in: had a total breakdown and HUGE complaining fit to Jon.
It’s pretty crazy and freaky that all of this should happen in the midst of something so great in my professional life. Right?
So why am I sharing all of this with you?
I promise, it’s not to complain or get sympathy.
It’s because all of the anxiety and stress on my part wasn’t just random.
I was experiencing what Gay Hendricks in The Big Leap explains as “Upper Limiting.”
Upper Limiting is when things are going so WELL, and you’re feeling so GOOD, that you simply hit an “upper limit” on that good feeling and start sabotaging yourself.
In my case, it was as if I just couldn’t allow myself to fully enjoy and bask in the glow of leading a phenomenal retreat.
To distract myself from really taking that in, I sabotaged my relaxing bath, I forgot to “pump” on my break and created my milk duct clog, and I incited tension between me and Jon for something as silly as sleeping at my very comfortable in-laws’ house for a few days.
Feeling THAT good was just too much.
I’ve been teaching my clients about the phenomena of not being able to fully take in “goodness” for a few years now, because I see how pervasive it can be for entrepreneurs. Something really wonderful happens in your business, and then, BAM! You do something else to completely take yourself down.
What I’m happy to report is that, the more I’ve worked on this for myself (and the more my clients work on it), the easier and easier it is to spot, and then course correct your Upper Limit and move more fully into success and feeling good.
So, please take note for yourself. The next time something really amazing happens in your business and your life, yet you find yourself:
–doing something to sabotage what you’ve created
–being upset when you should be celebrating
…remember this article and that it is probably just your knee-jerk reaction to not feel UBER good in your life.
And then call yourself out on what you’re doing, course correct, and TAKE IN the goodness that you’re creating.
This will not only lead to feeling great, but it will lead to your ability to create more and more success in your life and business.
One of the BIGGEST places I see entrepreneurs hit their upper limit is when they aren’t fully prepared to have a powerful enrollment conversation with a prospect.
I want to help with that! So be on the lookout next week for a VERY special invitation coming your way!