Do any of these situations sound familiar?:
Your client pays you a month late…for the third time.
You swallow your roommate’s jab at your choice of outfit, again.
Your child wakes you up for the fifth time at night.
You say “yes” with a grimace to Aunt Jane when you are asked to cook for the family get-together even though you are swamped with work.
These situations are all results of unclear, abused boundaries. Unhealthy boundaries can leave you feeling exhausted, resentful, and inauthentic in your relationships. When you allow your boundaries to be violated, you also often end up lacking in time, money and self-care.
Examples of good boundaries:
- Having a schedule and sticking to it
- Being clear about your rate, services, and availability
- Agreeing on timelines
- Knowing your “No’s” – what is it that is a deal breaker for you, is not okay – and following through on it
- Taking care of yourself before you take care of others
What happens when you have good boundaries:
- You feel energized
- You feel clear
- You find you are taking better care of yourself
- Your relationships feel authentic
- You have time for things
- You feel abundant
- You are able to serve in more ways
- You enjoy life more
So, what do you do if you sense that you are allowing your boundaries to be crossed and violated? Here is my proven 4-part process for creating healthy and happy boundaries in your life: READ MORE